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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 30- That’s My Jam!

In the spirit of trying to KISS..Keep It Simple Sophie, I will simply post the song and try not explain much. Just know that I love Nina Simone, she was one of the greatest to ever do it, her music has been sampled in damn near all of my favorite Hip Hop classics, and this song just makes me feel like I’m in a movie whenever I hear it.

Okay so the challenge asked for your favorite song and I have too many to count so this was super hard. But I am going to go with “Feeling Good,” because it genuinely makes me feel good. Everyday is a new day, and a new dawn. Thank you Auntie Nina for this timeless classic! Continue resting in power and love.

With that said and with the song sung, that wraps up my September 30 Day Challenge. I came, I blogged, and I posted. Now I’m ready to flip the chapter to October, it’s a new day and a new dawn full of chances to continue manifesting my dreams 🙂

 

 

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 28- That was Then, This is Now

Today’s Topic: A picture from you last year and now, how have you changed?

The picture on the left is from my time living in Atlanta for the summer & the one on the right is from a few weeks ago. I can’t even begin to explain how much I have changed since then. I will try to keep it simple…y’all know I struggle with that. But physically I cut my hair right after graduation and before moving to the south. This year I allowed my hair to grow back and have moved back up north.

Last year I was still recovering from some personal pain and couldn’t seem to get over certain things. This year I am way more in tune with my spirit and what it needs. I am no longer harboring hard feelings towards past hurt or from those who may have inflicted that hurt upon me. I’ve also gone from wanting to consume all types of food with the mentality of “We’re gonna die one day anyways,” to now thinking “I must eat to live NOT live to eat.

This year I honestly love myself a whole lot more.

 

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 26- What About Your Friends?

Today’s topic simply asks “What do you think about your friends?” Well this one’s easy. I think my friends are absolutely SPLENDID. I often say that I am extremely blessed to have the friends that I do. Being an individual who tends to be really awkward, shy, introverted but also a fake extrovert in certain situations, you can imagine making friends was a little difficult growing up. However, no matter how hard I always found my group of friends that matched my introverted awkwardness well.

But, the beauty of my friendships is that they span across the many places I’ve had the chance of living in. I have friends from elementary, middle and high school or still around in some capacity. There are some friends who although we don’t communicate often, we can still pick right back up where we left off with no hard feelings. I think that overall my friends are dope because of the energy I put out into the world. This is not to sound conceited but we truly attract people in our lives who are reflections of ourselves.

Therefore, for the friends I have attracted in my life who have leeched off of me or used me, that simply means that was a time in my life when that was the energy I was putting out. On the flip side, now that I have come to the point where I am truly loving myself and focusing on keeping a flow of positivity energy in my life I am also attracting friendships that are full of positivity.

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The Cast of Girlfriends (Source)

Overall, I like to think of all my friends as the different friend groups I’ve seen portrayed on TV while growing up. Some of my friends and I embody a little bit of the cast from Girlfriends, but then other times we’re Raven & Chelsea from That’s So Raven.

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As of right now, a great number of my girls and I are more like the ladies from Living Single except most of us are too broke to afford our own place together.

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The Ladies of Living Single aka one of the best sitcoms (Source)

My favorite thing about all of my friends is our flexibility in terms of our conversations and how we support one another. My bestie Sam and I remind me a lot of Molly and Issa from the show Insecure. We support one another through EVERYTHING but also aren’t afraid to let each other know when it is time to as Sam often says “DO BETTER!” So just as much as we can let our hair down, we know when to wrap that hair up for the night in a bonnet and get our shit together.

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Our Conversations Can Go From…(Source)

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To This Real Quick (Source)

Nevertheless, my friends are super awesome and I love them all dearly for so many different reasons. We all bond over the struggle that is our early 20s and it’s simply a beautiful train wreck of sadness met with gif/meme wars via damn near every social media platform. But all in all we are getting our lives together one day at a time. So to all my kick ass, badassery, college educated, talented, artistic, women of faith, activist, warrior, womanist, feminist, and flawless friends I owe you all a toast. When I’m ballin’, drinks on my ladies!

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 25- Bag Lady

Today’s topic is kind of funny to me because for 1) I love Erykah Badu’s song Bag Lady and 2) Ever since I began wearing purses I’ve always been considered the bag lady. No matter what you needed in school, believe me I would have it for you. From lotion to body spray, band aids etc. I’ve toned it down a little as of late but there was literally a time in high school when I walked around with a mini first aid kit. My friends would laugh at me for it but I bet you can guess who they’d hit up if they scraped their leg in gym class. I was also the “plug” for the gum back in the day but I no longer chew gum so don’t hit me up for it.

 

The Contents of My Purse This Week…ignore the spoon y’all or don’t…

 

As of right now, you would still find lotion and other hygienic products in my bag. Of course you would also find a wallet, random earring studs or backs to earrings, a bottle of water (I never leave home without it), some lip balm, a small brush or comb if I’m wearing one of my wigs that day, and lately I carry around my eyebrow brush.

A Closeup…I clearly love me some Bath & Body Works 😉

Lately, I’ve also been carrying around a book to keep me from aimlessly scrolling through social media during my times of boredom in the day. Sometimes you will also find my idea book along with my planner depending on where I am headed for the day.

Okay, so that doesn’t sound as junky as I assumed it would. Now in the words of Capital One, what’s in your wallet or purse?

 

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 24- Books Galore

One of my favorite hobbies growing up was reading and later came my love of writing as well. Anyways, due to my love for reading I have always been given books as gifts from family and close friends. So it saddens me that this challenge only asks for “3 books on my shelf,” because I have a huge collection of books (many of which I haven’t read just yet LOL but still). Below you will find the top three books on my bookshelf at the moment and the pictures of them as well.

  1. By Any Greens Necessary

I picked up this gem one of my favorite spots in New Orleans called the Community Book Center. During that time I didn’t fully consider the possibility of me going vegan but it was definitely a thought for me to at least try to be vegetarian at some point. Even though I went vegan back in July, I didn’t really start reading this book until early September.

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Anyways, not only is the title super catchy with its play on Malcolm X’s infamous “By any means necessary,” quote but it is also chock full of facts about the food industry, how to eat healthier through choosing a plant based diet and even has tons of recipes as well. If you are considering changing up your diet or want to learn more about how to revolutionize your eating habits this is the book for you!

2. Acts of Faith

At the beginning of this year I made a few goals, some that I’ve achieved and some that I haven’t which goes without saying. Nevertheless, one of the goals was to return to well balanced diet, start up a consistent workout routine and to read this book daily. Granted I started off shaky, as of the last few months I’ve made it a habit. The overarching theme for this year has been “To remain consistent.” So by taking about a minute or two at breakfast I read another daily meditation and try to keep it in mind through the day. I truly appreciate the wisdom and lessons that Iyanla shares through this book.

Also, as you can see from the wear & tear I really do love this book LOL. Don’t judge me 😛

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3. One Day It’ll All Make Sense

Last but certainly not least is a book I’ve had on my shelf for a few years now. Back in 2013 my college hosted an event with Common as the headliner. No, it wasn’t a concert which I would’ve loved to attend but rather Common dropped about an hour’s worth of wisdom through a speech which was followed by audience questions. I appreciated his authenticity and how willing he was to share details of his humble beginnings. 20131015_205633.jpg

Anyways, towards the end of the event we got the chance to purchase his book. After reading it I felt so much more connected to him, his story and his music. I had always been a fan of his music but after meeting him I became an admirer of his path to success. This book is definitely due to be read a second time.

Common & I at the Common LIVE event at Montclair State University, 2013

As I reminisce on my feelings that night and after reading the book I truly am beginning to understand why I have had to go through certain things. One day it truly will all make sense, I may not receive an answer for it all but more likely than not I will have a reason for most of it.

 

P.S. Shout out to Common for telling me to “Stay Royale,” because I sure have done just that. Forever Royale ; )

Alright, your turn! What are three books on your bookshelf or what three of your favorite books?

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 22- Who’s That Girl?

Today’s topic is actually quite interesting to me. “What makes you different from everybody else?” is such a broad and complex question for me. On this journey of self discovery and personal development within the last few months I’ve indulged in countless YouTube videos that discuss this topic. Many videos I’ve seen and posts that I’ve read often say that in order to make it in any industry you must be set apart. You’ve got to show the world your uniqueness. What makes you stand out and makes other want to draw near to you? Well, what happens when you have several things that make you stand out, then what?

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Don’t be a jack of all trades & a master of none…they say (Source)

Every time that I have thought about this question I honestly had no clue what to really say. I mean, I’m the child of Haitian immigrants but so are several of my friends. I’m from Jersey but so are tons of people. I’ve moved around quite a lot throughout my life. I come from a two parent family home but have also experienced living with a single mother as well. I grew up in a Christian home and while I still subscribe to those beliefs, I am also more understanding of other faiths as well. I have a college degree but once again many people do nowadays. Also, I’m pretty much completely in love with being a Black woman and Pro-Black especially because while growing up I didn’t fully see the beauty in being Black portrayed in media. I’ve always been heavily into media so this was a huge part of my childhood. Anyways, now that I do see the beauty of my culture I can’t get enough of it.

Now, while all of these details describe me quite well. It doesn’t really make me that different but one thing I have noticed about myself is that due to all of these different experiences I have developed a personality that is quite complex. Then again, I am a Gemini so it could have a lot do with that too or not. But on a serious note, as of late I have found myself confused about how I want my future to look.

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Artwork Inspired by Queen Rihanna who is definitely a Queen of Many Crowns (Source)

Random but related backstory: During high school I was definitely what one would consider to be a “jack of all trades,” or as I like to call myself “a queen of many crowns.” I not only was a part of JROTC but also participated in the annual fashion show. All the while still being on the E-Board of both Student Council and National Honor Society and being on the Tennis and Track Team. (Yes all of that & managed to have amazing grades in honors classes) This love for jumping from activity to activity didn’t stop because it followed me in college as well. From being on the E-Board of the Caribbean Student Organization to being a member of the National Honor Society for Psychology and at the same time being an RA with at least 2-3 other campus side jobs. I’ve always had a desire to do more than others. Not to compare myself or one up anyone but I seriously enjoy having my hand in more than one pot, it is fulfilling to me. 

I guess I’m saying all this because I recently discovered this summer that I am what some call a Multipotentialite or Polymath. There are actually several different words to describe this type of person. Regardless of the title, I now know I am one. I caught myself crying the other day because I couldn’t (still can’t) for the life of me decide exactly what I want to attend grad school for or if I even want to do so.

I have tons of ideas for how my future can go. I know what some of you all might be saying, “Girl, at least you’ve got ideas!” This is true and I value my creative brain, I do. However, it comes to a point where indecisiveness begins to weigh on you. Also, living in a society where specializing in one thing is still largely embrace or taught in schools causes me anxiety about how successful I can actually be in this world.

With that said, I guess what sets me apart from most people is that I am a Multipotentialite. I have ideas galore and though it appears impossible for me, I want to explore all of those ideas even in the slightest of ways. 

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Multipotentialite Defined (Source)

Before I go, I want to share with you all a message my good friend, Bria, sent me the other day as I was venting to her. She mentioned the multi-talented, Donald Glover aka Childish Gambino. As I was venting to Bria, I expressed that there was no way I would be able to do everything I wanted to but she quickly reminded me that Donald Glover did. Donald whose musical stage name is Childish Gambino has done stand up comedy, he’s a rapper (with dope music), he’s been a DJ, a producer, director, a writer and the list goes on. 

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Donald Glover at the 2017 Emmy’s with two of his wins (Source)

Granted, he and I are not the same. Hell no one is, that’s what this post is basically about. But, one thing’s for sure we can look to others for inspiration. Below is what Bria texted me. It put things in perspective for me. Yes, it will take some pulling and pushing but if in fact I desire to be way more than what I am today I’ve got to step into the water whether it be hot or ice cold.

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The Text from Bria ❤

Donald Glover has tried it all and been pretty damned good at it all too. So why can’t I at least try to do all that I desire to do? No one is physically or even mentally stopping me from doing so except for myself. After all most of history’s greatest thinkers were also Multipotentialites as well (i.e Aristotle, Leonardo DaVinci, Maya Angelou, and Eleanor Roosevelt). 

P.S. Shout out to Donald Glover for making history at the Emmy’s as the first black person to win an Emmy for Outstanding Directing In a Comedy Series. We are all rooting for you to continue making strides in the industry of music, film, writing, and comedy too!

 

 

Alright, y’all I must apologize for this post being a little bit all over the place but I do know you got my point. Right? I hope you did LOL. Regardless, what makes you different from others? What’s the splendid part of you that no one else can mirror or copy? I would love to hear about it, so please share below 🙂

Also, for those who might feel similar to me, maybe you are also a Multipotentialite or as we were called in the old days “Renaissance man or woman.” You can click here to access more info about what it means to be one and take a quiz to see if you are. Chances are if you are thinking it then you probably are one. 

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 17-Trading Places

Today’s challenge is pretty cool because it reminds me of the movie Freaky Friday. Have you ever had an out of body experience or dreamed of having one with your favorite person in the world?

Well, here is your chance. Today’s topic is “If you could be anyone for a day, who would it be and why?” I thought about this long and hard. For one, I am finally at a place where I am living my best life or at least getting to the point where that will be totally true. With that said, I don’t really have a desire to be like anyone else but me. That new mentality is a huge win for me. But, if I really had to choose it would be the Queen, the BossLady of Shondaland, Shonda Rhimes.

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The Self Declared Badass herself Shonda Rhimes (Source)

Although I will admit I’ve never watched Grey’s Anatomy (yet) Shonda sure knows how to keep her audience on lock for season after season and still dominates Thursday nights on TV with Scandal and How to Get Away With Murder. With her shows being broadcasted internationally and in a plethora of languages, she is living the life that I could only dream of living one day. Also, after reading/listening to her book, Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person, I feel like she and I are close friends. Shonda spoke about how as a child she’d have these recurring scenarios in her head that she would use to create stories with. When she spoke about that it reminded me of my own childhood. As a writer we quite literally have characters in our head all the time. It sounds as crazy as it feels, trust me.

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Shonda Rhimes aka the Savior of TV per The Hollywood Reporter (Source)

Further, I appreciate Shonda’s decision not to get married but still have children. How badass is that? Also, she is the Shonda Rhimes is the epitome of the woman I aspire to be like as I continue developing in my writing and personal life as well. Another thing that makes me want to be Shonda for a day is her sheer determination of saying “yes” to becoming healthier through her dedication to eating better and making exercise a part of her daily life. I honestly have to credit her for inspiring me to really move forward with also taking my health more serious AND my writing. You know what, as a matter of fact I think I am slowly turning to my own version of Shonda LOL but hey I do not mind.

On a serious note, thanks Shonda for sharing your gift with the world nonstop and reminding others that their dreams are also valid. Thank you for also pushing forward the reality that as black women we also have layers of personality that need to be portrayed within the world of TV & film. We are not just “one type of black,” it don’t work like that. You’ve shown the world our sensitivity but still coupled with being a boss at the same time (shoutout to Olivia Pope & Annalise). I want to live in the abundance of badassery just as you said in your book “Badassery, I’m discovering, is a new level of confidence—in both yourself and those around you.”

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“Happiness comes from living as you need to, as you want to. As your inner voice tells you to. Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you are supposed to be.” –Shonda Rhimes (Picture Source)

Alright so you know what time it is, your turn! So if you could be anyone in the world, who what it be and why?

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 16-Blogger Selfie

Today’s’ challenge isn’t challenging at all LOL. Just calls for “another blogger selfie,” and that is all. Last weekend I got the splendid opportunity of visiting Atlanta for the One Music Fest and while there I got to purchase this super dope shirt. So why not show it off in this selfie? Also, yes it says “ARTual Healing,” and for those who also want to rock this tee you can find more info by following @kristendowningart on Instagram.

 

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 11- Picture of Me & a Friend

Today’s challenge is rather simple and is one of my favorites. *sings* people let me tell you bout my besssst friend! This past weekend I got to attend the One Music Festival with my bestie of 11 years and of course a great time was had. Not only did we get to enjoy an amazing lineup of Black artists but we also got to celebrate her birthday.


It literally does not matter how far away we live from one another we always make an effort to remain in contact. Even when she lived abroad I spoke to her more than people who actually lived in the states. Crazy right? I know but that’s what happens when your bond with someone is that strong, you don’t really get tired of one another.

As a matter of fact, we should both invest in WhatsApp because thanks to it we stay chatting all day everyday. So the selfie below is just a snippet of our beautiful sisterhood. My favorite part about our friendship is that no matter how much our bank accounts may glare at us, we are always down for a “Treat yo self,” moment. From our Mardi Gras fun in New Orleans to our historical walks through the National Museum of African American History & Culture in D.C. With that said, if there is anyone who I know has got my back through and through without judging me for anything, it is her. Thanks bestie for being the best. You may not know it but you truly do inspire me to live my best life and enjoy it to the max. I love you dearly! ❤

P.S. I can’t wait until we’re making big bucks so our travel can extend beyond domestic flights LOL…that day is coming sooner than we may think! I’m speaking it into existence

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 7-Latest, Greatest Inspiration

There are several people who have inspired me up to this point in my life. I could go on for hours about the phenomenal women and passionate men within history whose stories I seek for refuge and comfort to endure life’s many trials. However, for the purpose of today’s challenge “A picture of someone or something that has made the biggest impact,” I will choose someone who’s work I am extremely passionate about in the present time. My latest, greatest inspiration is the lovely, awkward black girl herself, the queen of web series and the queen of taking her writing to the next level by securing a TV deal with HBO, the Issa Rae.

 


As a fellow awkward black girl who also happens to be a writer, Issa’s discography truly inspires me to never doubt small steps. In one of her interviews I recall her saying that her success took about 9 years. Me being the impatient person that I am, I often look at my 23 years of age as if I should already be established. However, thanks to people like Issa I am reminded that dreams, much like plants, need to be watered daily and touched by sunlight in order to flourish. So if I am truly passionate about my writing then time should mean nothing to me. I want to inspire younger generations of Black girl writers to know that their voices are just as important as the voices of anyone else. Thanks to Issa, I have that inspiration and I will continue on that legacy once I stop allowing doubt and procrastination to fill my head with lies. Just kidding, through my blogging this is just the first step to many more dreams to manifest.

Can Issa Do Any Wrong? The answer is no. She’s dope beyond words.

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Thanks Issa Rae for simply being you. I know you don’t know me yet, but you are my 5th big sister in my head and also my mentor. Thank you for ABG and thank you for Insecure, both shows reflect my life in ways I can’t even begin to explain. Perhaps you’ll never see this but the positive energy is out there and I hope it’s finding its way to you!

Love & Light,

 

 

Ms. Royale

 

 

P.S. For the readers out there, who inspires you and why? 🙂

 

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30 Days of Me Challenge: Day 5-Location, Location

Today’s challenge is “A picture of somewhere you’ve been to.” This year thanks to my absolutely wonderful best friend of 10 years, Samantha, I got the chance of visiting the National Museum of African-American History & Culture. When I tell ya a great time was had. I’ve never in my black ass life been so happy to be somewhere and for that long of a time too. I’d back again and again until I know that building from its foundation to its roof. The amount of history, legacy and overall education that exists in one place. The feeling I had as I moved from the pre-enslavement floor all the way until I got to the music moguls floor, I simply fell in love with my blackness in ways I can hardly explain. If you haven’t visited yet, make that a goal please & no you don’t have to just be Black. Take a trip to DC just for this f you have to, you won’t regret it! 

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